A lot of guys complain about not getting enough sex in their relationship. It was once steamy, but now it's forced, infrequent and dull. The worst part is the average guy really thinks it's normal for their sex lives to become this way.

And they're right, it is normal.

But only for those who expect this to happen.

In order to get great sex (year after year), you need to do what happy couples do.

I was talking to a guy who said it was his goal to find out the exact percentage of guys who struggle with having a healthy sex life.

I told him that he would be better off spending his energy researching why happy couples are constantly having steamy sex.

Being an electrical engineer and someone who analyzes differences in how people think, I ended up discovering the key difference between couples who consistently have great sex and couples who don't.

It's interesting.

The key difference is beliefs.

It's that simple. If you talk to any couple who are having passionate sex consistently (year after year) - regardless of any obstacle - you will notice that they don't buy in to the typical beliefs that most people have.

It's pretty amazing, because it's a simple shift in thinking.

They don't care about brilliant explanations by scientists. They don't care about the stats that say some couples will experience a drop off after awhile.

The man and woman both believe (and expect) to have great sex year after year.

Interestingly, the typical, average, boring couple expects for the passion to fade. The idea of being in the "honeymoon phase" forever seems like a fantasy to them. It all comes down to beliefs.

This is one of those areas of life where most experts are completely wrong. For example, the key to improving your sex life has more to do with understanding the problem along with believing there is a solution.

For some reason, when it comes to correcting relationship issues, most experts are quick to give default responses like: You need to communicate better. You need to be more romantic.

But in a situation where one person doesn't believe (expect) to experience a passionate sex life (post honeymoon), 'communication tactics' are not going to work.

When you're not addressing the actual problem or even worse, not believing that it's possible to improve, you're making critical seduction mistakes.